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Saturday, December 21, 2013

The first Cut; a welcome note

Boy, can dating be a hassle. You meet someone, spend time getting to know them, spend time with them, spend emotions on them, and then BAM. You realize you just wasted a lot of time while Mr/Mrs right could have slipped by while you were wasting time. Truth of the matter is, you should never see things like that. People you interact with n a daily basis help to prepare you for the one you're meant to be with. It just takes a little time and effort to get there. To boot, the one you're meant to be with is going to take a lot of time and effort, which you will be prepared for after going through it. So be thankful for every lesson you have a chance to learn along the path to Mr/Mrs right.

Yes you will be seeing a lot of what's wrong with dating here. More than anything I want to solicit and spread the positive aspects of dating, which is why I started things the way they started. There is so much of the negative aspects of dating that it becomes necessary to purge the Web of it all by creating something a bit more positive and a bit, seemingly unrealistic. A good relationship. Not all men/women are dogs, otherwise we, ourselves, would have to be counted among them. At the same time, it is good to believe there are good people out there looking for something real, as evidenced by YOU.

Fact of the matter is, when we get duped it may be because we were expecting much more from someone than they were ready to give. We miss it a lot because we weren't paying attention to the signs instead of the smiles and good times. Often people show us exactly what they want and we give it to them because we hope that they can be our right. Then we turn and blame them for fulfilling their selfish wants at our expense. Don't get me wrong I am not blaming the victim here. But paying attention to what someone is saying without words is essential to our own emotional needs. Our own emotional needs must at all times be primary. If it is not then we cannot in truth say that we can hold anyone's emotional needs in our best interest. Why do I say this? Because if you cannot and will not look after yourself, who can count on you to look after them.

I hope you will visit the Dating Advisor often for our updated posts. Please feel free to comment on any of our posts and share any future posts you see with friends and colleagues as you like. If anything is helpful we hope to hear from you how it works out.

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